Women’s Focused Therapy:
Entering Motherhood and Beyond

The shift to motherhood is overwhelming.

While you dreamed of becoming a mother, it was a shock when you got pregnant. Suddenly, so many healthcare decisions had to be made, and you didn’t know where to find good information.

Every birth story you hear sounds scary. And how will you take care of a little one when you sometimes still feel like you have trouble taking care of yourself?

The birth was traumatic, and memories of it get in the way of enjoying being a new parent.

Thinking about it all makes it hard to breathe sometimes.

Avoiding your parents’ mistakes is the goal.

You know you can’t repeat the parenting mistakes your parents made with you.

Deep wounds remain from your childhood experiences in your family, and they continue to affect you now.

You know you do not want to inflict the same things on your kids, but without other healthy parenting models, you’re at a loss about how to communicate and positively provide structure.

No matter what you do, you feel like a bad mom because you don’t know if you’re doing anything right.

Relationships keep shifting.

The ground beneath you doesn’t feel solid anymore.

A divorce, broken friendship, job transition, loss of a loved one, or kids flying or not flying the nest represent changes in life’s transitions.

Whatever the transition, the relationships around you have changed, and you feel lost now.

The foundations of your self-esteem have been shaken, and you don’t know who you are without seeing yourself reflected in those who are no longer around you. The image they left you with is that you are somehow the broken one.

Your needs as a woman in therapy are unique.

You want someone who understands you in all your feminine complexity.

It’s essential to have someone who can relate to the nuances of living life in a female body and bring life into the world, yet living in a society that doesn’t always honor or appreciate the gifts we bring.

You need a therapist who values and celebrates the unique connections, depths of feeling, and power that women experience in everyday living.

I hear you, Sister.

Is there anyone who can help find the path forward?

Step into my office (or invite me into your home), and I’ll help you figure things out.

The first part of therapy is about having conversations and connecting, so I can learn what you are going through and how you think about things.

I’ll be a sounding board for you and help pull apart the tangled strands of thought that make you feel stuck. I’ll help you feel like someone is on your side, and you have a safety net, so you are not struggling alone anymore.

Together, we’ll make the life changes you need.

Next, we’ll figure out strategies for making changes. Whether it involves practical changes, like how to get more information or support, or changes in personal boundaries or thought patterns, we’ll work together to find ways that work to make your life more manageable and happier.

We may use Accelerated Resolution Therapy to reduce the pain of the situation and gain new insights. Other times, you’ll learn new skills. I will also hold space for you to feel all the feelings safely and compassionately.

The benefit of working with me is that my end of the conversation brings additional tools and problem-solving techniques that you probably won’t get from talking with friends or family. I’ll take a values-based approach and help you find the solutions that work for you, while broadening your ability to think about things differently and respond more effectively to the challenges you experience.

And I’ll help you feel heard.